A Time to Forgive

As Published in Heroes, Heroines & History: A Time to Forgive

The year was 1866, the devastation of the Civil War could be seen as far as the eye could see. Clothed in faded, worn-out dresses, women of the war-torn South made their way toward the hallowed graves of the dead. Civil War grave site 1

The firing on Fort Sumpter in 1862 incited the Civil War. The southern states wanted their own way; their own flag, their own money, their own president. However, not all Southerners wanted to secede from the Union. They were swept into the turmoil just the same. One’s destiny is often created from circumstances beyond one’s control.

Michigander Nathaniel Greene volunteered for the Civil War on the day he turned 18. He did so through the Enrollment Act, signed into law in 1863. He took a neighbor’s place in trade for 60 acres of farmland.

The Enrollment Act, also known as the Conscription Act, allowed for said individuals subject to conscription to hire a substitute, who might normally be exempt from service. Substitution quickly proved to be unpopular since it allowed wealthy men to escape military service while leaving men of lesser resources exposed to the draft.

Greene was a soldier in General William Tecumseh Sherman’s army. He took no pride in burning Confederate homes, as stated in a letter to his mother, Martha Greene:

Civil War N. Greene small“Some of our soldiers brag about burning the homes of the confederates. I think it is wrong for them to do so. I ask them how they would like it to have their homes burned over their mother’s head.”

Once a land of plenty, many Southerners were left with only the clothes on their backs. Their money, bonds, and homes burned away. Still, the Christian Southerners clung to their biblical principles, nursing Union as well as Confederate soldiers back to health. They displayed through their deeds, their forgiveness, and determination not to succumb to self-pity when they knew there was no hope in winning the war.

Civil War Abe Lincoln
On March 4, 1865, President Abraham Lincoln, during his Second Inaugural Address in Washington D.C. ended with these words:

“The judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether. With malice toward none; with charity for all; with firmness in the right, as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to finish the work we are in; to bind up the nation’s wounds; to care for him who shall have borne the battle, and for his widow, and his orphan—to do all which may achieve and cherish a just and lasting peace among ourselves, and with all nations.”

Families in the south felt daily the depravity, hunger, and devastation caused by the Civil War that had ransacked their beloved South.

Memorial Day Arlington Cemetery 1873In May 1866, as far as one could see, ghostly ash-colored buildings and barren fields stretched before the women’s tear-filled eyes. Some had lost sons, brothers, and husbands to the war. Their arms folded around the flowers they’d salvaged from their almost-forgotten gardens as they trudged forward toward the thousands of tombstones of marked and unmarked graves sweeping before their eyes with increasing clarity.

Husband, son, and brother, Union or Confederate, they decorated the soldiers’ graves in this one voluntary act as a sincere demonstration of their repentance and forgiveness for the bloodshed on both sides. These men who wore the blue of their enemies were now united beneath one common cause and sharing the rewards of heaven with their loved ones.

“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Matthew 6:14 NKJV Civil War grave flowers 1

Our war-torn southern neighbors displayed in May 1866 their heart-wrenching sacrificial love toward the husbands, sons, and brothers of their northern neighbors.

Today, some feel Americans have forgotten the meaning and traditions of Memorial Day. In December 2000, Congress passed into law The National Moment of Remembrance, a resolution stating that at 3 p.m. on Memorial Day all Americans informally observe in their own way a moment of remembrance and respect, pausing from whatever they are doing for a moment of silence.

A time to remember that in 1862, America stood upon a precipice of either being forever divided—or eternally united. Rising above that moment’s circumstances, to step out from the ashes of regret and loss. This Memorial Day, take time to remember how our forefathers forgave, never turning their backs on their duties to God, family, and country. God Bless!
Swept into Destiny, Book 1 of the Destiny Series; One brave decision lead to serious consequences. Ben McConnell, a handsome Irish immigrant, and a gutsy Southern belle, Maggie Gatlan unite in a common cause during the Civil War.

Catherine is an award-winning author of the inspirational historical romance Wilted Dandelions. Destiny series: Swept into Destiny, Destiny’s Whirlwind, Destiny of Heart, and Waltz with Destiny.Book Signing White Horse Birg.

She is a member of Heart of American Christians Writers Network (HACWN); American Christian Fiction Writers (ACFW) President of the Great Lakes Chapter (ACFW GLC), and is a longtime Michigan resident. Catherine lives with her husband of 45 years, has two adult children, and four grandchildren. See https://www.CatherineUlrichBrakefield.com for more information about the Destiny series.

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